Infertility from the male perspective

The number of reviews about the experiences of men undergoing infertility treatment is much less than the discussions of what women go through. This is surprising, because men are responsible for 40% of infertility – and are an integral part of the infertility treatment as well. Why aren’t they willing to share what they go through ? A major reason for this is that generally men are hesitant to communicate about their emotions. On the other hand, women realize the necessity to share. They interact with others about their feelings and thus, lessen their emotional load.

Infertile men have a haunting fear that they may be shooting blanks, which is the major reason why they are unwilling to get their semen tested. It is very convenient for a man to presume that it is his wife who has the medical problems, when she is unable to get pregnant. They often have an ill-conceived belief that it is the wife’s job to have a baby. Many men even equate their sexual performance with their fertility, which is why they don’t feel they need testing of their semen if the former is good enough.

Men are surreptitiously anxious that their semen may not show up enough motile sperms upon testing. Besides, a good number of men are aware of the fact that male infertility is the reason behind 40% of infertility complaints. They are scared that they maybe one of these 40% !

Their fear stems from the belief that any revelation of their infertility by a semen analysis will disgrace them before their wife as well as society. Due to a lack of understanding about the correlation between sexuality and fertility, men are afraid that their infertility may become a reason for them to be considered sexually inadequate.

Many men even harbor the worry that they may not have any more sperm left, as in their teenage years they masturbated frequently. Because of a number of myths and misconceptions, others worry about other issues, which they feel impact their fertility , such as:

 their penis being too small ;

their erection not being sufficiently hard ; or

their semen not being viscous enough.

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